October 23, 2016

Mili Wifey & Husband (Guest Post) : Top 5 Fictional Villains We Sympathize With

A few months ago, my blogging friend Caitlyn wrote a post titled 20 Random Questions. One of these questions was "What villain do you really feel for?"and she answered with Cal from Titanic. As I was reading this, I thought this question would make an incredible blog post and I immediately asked Military Husband if he would participate.

Many hugs to Caitlyn for the idea. You should all follow Caitlyn at:

She lives in San Francisco and is obsessed with her dog and her husband. I adore her and you will too. Thanks again dollface.

Anyhoo, really though, who does not love a good villain? And there are some you just plan feel sorry for overall. Being that it is Halloween season, a post devoted to a few of our favorite villains seems fitting.

Without further ado, here our Military Husband and my:

Top 5 Fictional Villains We Sympathize With

Mili Wifey's Top 5

Anakin Skywalker, Star Wars Episodes 1-3

When I told Military Husband I felt pity for Anakin Skywalker, this was his reaction:

Military Husband: He's a DOUCHE. A little douche that becomes the biggest badass in the Empire.


Right. Once I knew who Darth Vader was, I began to understand his character a lot better.

Anakin is such a complicated character to me. I do understand Military Husband's sentiments. But, BUT, Anakin was manipulated and controlled his entire life. The Jedi Council never gives him any trust. And then, here comes Palpatine to give Anakin his "freedom" or so Anakin believes. Now, he can use his powers to the full extent. Palaptine strokes his ego and trusts him. Anakin does not realize Palaptine is just controlling him and not warning him of the dangers of the force (unlike Luke, who was always being warned about the dark side on the daily).

I know, I KNOW. Anakin's  behavior shows that he was a weak person, but he is perhaps one of the most "human" characters in Star Wars.

Disclaimer: Please do not rip this apart Star Wars Maniacs. This is just an opinion and I am definitely no Star Wars expert (just watched the movies). However, if you decide to tear me a new lightsaber in the comments, well, I feel ya. I get the same fire when someone writes about Marvel anything. 

Faith, Buffy The Vampire Slayer

Eliza Dushku is my best friend. She just has no idea, YET. A Boston slayer and I am moving to Boston? #FATE #itshappening #sheshouldprobablygetarestrainingorder

What I absolutely love about Faith is she is the absolute antithesis to Buffy. What if Buffy had no Giles? No Scooby Gang? No friends to be there and back her up or be her fall guy in all her decisions? Thus, we meet Faith. She just wants a place in this world, all the while dealing with being a "slayer." She wants to fit in with Buffy and the gang, but she cannot understand why Buffy does not get the same thrill of the kill. She is confused, complex and often, pitiful. She accepts the Mayor as a father figure, not realizing he does not care for her and is simply his tool.

I love Joss Whedon for this character. Eliza is magnificent and will always be one of my favorite "villains" of all time.

Mr. White, Reservoir Dogs

Some people think Reservoir Dogs is overrated. Some think it is a "guy's movie." I have loved this movie since the dawn of time (or since my dad explained to me who Tarentino was).

Do I feel sorry for any of these hardened criminals? Yes. I felt terribly sorry for Mr. White at the end of Reservoir Dogs.

Mr. White took Mr. Orange under his wing. He showed an incredible amount of compassion for Mr. Orange when he is shot (even revealing his first name). He took a bullet and killed his friends because he trusted Mr. Orange. He was literally brought to tears and pain knowing that Mr. Orange was an undercover cop. Regardless of his violent tendencies, he showed empathy and kindness to another man he trusted.

Gemma Teller Morrow, Sons of Anarchy

When I first started watching Sons of Anarchy, Military Husband told me I would have a favorite character. For me, it was immediately Gemma. I absolutely adore Katey Sagal and have always been a fan of her vocal talents which she put to use in the series.

Love her or hate her, Gemma is a badass strong woman. And why do I feel sorry for her? She actually thought everything she was doing would benefit Jax in the end. We know this in her final moments. She understands why Jax must (SPOILER ALERT) kill her, but she tells him that she did it all for him. Those decisions she made, including the (SPOILER ALERT) violent killing of Tara, may seem evil. But, BUT, Gemma really does not have the moral compass of a normal person. And, in the end, she is more pitiful than vile.

P.S. I really just love Katey Sagal so Gemma all day, everyday.

Alex, A Clockwork Orange

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that Stanley Kubrick wanted us to feel sorry for Alex. He is a tragic despondent. Absolutely despicable and his crimes are unforgivable, but his rehabilitation is little more than a castration of his soul. It is horrible to watch Alex return to absolutely nothing and be little more than a machine only capable of good. He is completely unable to even defend himself on the streets.

Alex is a terribly pitiful character and the movie itself speaks on society and politics. It was truly ahead of its time and an absolute masterpiece and in case you were not aware, I heart Kubrick forever, and ever, and EVER.

Hannibal Lector, Hannibal

I always found myself sympathizing with Dr. Lector (not to mention, his service of "eating the rude."). He is a complex, brilliant man who, you know, just has a few little screws loose. In Ridley Scott's Hannibal, Dr. Lector wants to be left alone in Italy. When he learns he has been elevated to the FBI's most wanted list, he sends Clarice what amounted to a love letter. It was both frightening and charming. He actually enjoys his "relationship" with Clarice and admires her. Perhaps even loves her in his own way.

Lector's love/somewhat obsession with Clarice is thematic throughout Hannibal. For example, when Allegra Pazzi asks Dr. Lector if a man could become obsessed with a woman from a single encounter, he responds:

"Could he daily feel a stab of hunger for her and find nourishment in the very sight of her? I think so. But would she see through the bars of his plight and ache for him?

Hannibal is filled with plenty of villains : Paul Krendler (massive douchebag/driven by pride and ego), Mason Verger (driven by revenge, he has become completely sick and twisted), Inspector Pazzi (driven by greed). I could not sympathize with any of them and I am fairly certain Ridley Scott wanted this reaction from the audience. He managed to make Dr. Lector a somewhat Renaissance man with passion (you know, despite the fact that he enjoys eating people).

One of my favorite quotes in the film:

"Tell me Clarice, would you ever say to me 'Stop. If you loved me, you'd stop."

As an aside, I wanted to go to Italy as soon as I saw those wide angle lens shots (most likely, Ridley Scott was inspired by Kubrick with his cinematography).

A Few Mili Wifey Honorable Mentions: 
T Rex and the Raptors, Jurassic Park : You created them and you brought them back to life for the purposes of profiting off a theme park. What the hell did you expect might happen?
The Cenobites, Hellraiser : All in a day's work, in my opinion. YOU called them, you opened the box. What do you mean, you don't like their pleasure and pain like hell?

Disclaimer: You might have noticed I did not include any Marvel supervillians. Yeah, I really do not feel sorry for them one bit. Sorry/not sorry, I could not imagine a Red Skull redemption story nor do I ever say "gosh Ultron was such a fun robot" nor do I think "man, that Loki just got a rough deal, we need to bow down to him more!" Most Marvel supervillians are just big old douchebags who continuously mess with the superheroes we love.

Military Husband's Top 5

Lex Luthor, Smallville

He was tortured as a child by bullies and his own father. As an adult, he is cast out by his father to Smallville feeling inadequate and unwanted. Luthor truly has a good heart and wants to connect with Clark. However, his thirst to prove to his father he will be more successful overshadows his good side. Luthor's overbearing lust for information about the meteor shower and what Clark may or may not be hiding finally shatters him completely turning him into a maniacal monster.

Colonel Nathan R. Jessup, A Few Good Men

Colonel Jessup is an old school be trained or be killed Marine. He is the kind of leader you want to work for as a Marine.

"You weep for Santiago and you curse the Marines. You have that luxury. You have the luxury of not knowing what I know, that Santiago's death, while tragic, probably saved lives. And my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives. You don't want the truth because deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, you want me on that wall. You need me on that wall. We use words like "honor," "code," "loyalty." We use those words as the backbone of a life spent defending something. You use them as a punchline. I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom that I provide, and then questions the manner in which I provide it. I would rather you just said "thank you," and went on your way. Otherwise, I suggest you pick up a weapon and stand a post. Either way, I don't give a damn what you think you are entitled too."

Enough said.

Sons, Sons Of Anarchy

This is the classic story of the anti-hero. Whether it is Jax, Opie, Chibs, Bobby, Juice, Tig or even Clay, never has it felt so good to root for the "bad guys." Even at their worst, you will find yourself cheering and yelling over the television when they kill a cop (Editor's Note: Let's face it; the cops in Sons were not exactly "great people") or a rival of the MC.

Crowley, Supernatural

Evil? Yes.

Maniacal? Sure.

However, he is also a tortured soul much like Lex Luthor. He was abandoned as a child by his mother Rowena who literally despised him and preferred to pursue her own endless search to become the most powerful witch in the world. Thus, Crowley strived to be the most powerful demon and became so thanks to Sam and Dean.

(Editors Note: Not to mention Crowley is hilarious.)

Harvey Dent/Two-Face, Batman

Has there ever been a villain more entitled to sympathy than Two Face? (Editor's Note: Yes. Mr. Freeze (NOT the Arnold one - that was SO BAD). He was trying to save his beloved wife. It is just plain tragic.) Dent was the golden boy and the inevitable savior who would take the reins from the caped crusader and save Gotham. Then, he has it all ripped away from him. Vengeful? Untrusting? Yes, but fair as far as villains are concerned. You deserved better, Mr. Dent.

What movie or television villain do you feel sorry for? Let us know in the comments below!

It's good to be bad sometimes, because I am,


  1. My husband could be Anakin Skywalker's twin. He has learned that he just needs to give me some wine and play a couple of the A.S. sword scenes on youtube and he's going to get lucky.

    Just saying.

    I agree with most of these. I found Hannibal Lector fascinating, and loved that movie.

  2. OMG what about that poor kinda-misunderstood rat bastard villain LOKI?

  3. LOL I agree about the poor dinosaurs. My son laughs at me cause I can't watch those movies and not get upset cause I don't want any of them to die. I am such a sap ;)

  4. Yes!!!! I have had that Vader argument with many people. No wonder he became a bad ass. He had a rough ass childhood and none of his mentors cared about him at all, lost his mom, the love of his life, and left for dead. Team Vader all the way. I use to be able to quote A Few Good Men. Especially the "You Can't Handle The Truth" speech.

  5. I have a tendency to feel sorry for any underdog but villains not so much. This is going to have me trying to think of sympathetic bad guys all evening! LOL!

  6. I like Disney villains they are my favorite, however I do love a good princess or queen! Hahaha!

    God bless,

    XO, Claire


    1. That's a good one! Several Disney villains get my sympathy!

  7. I was going to say Gemma too - I think she truly felt she was helping most of the time!

  8. I can't even express how horrible I felt for Alex. Yeah, he did horrible things.
    (Didn't he save that chick from being raped with his gang, and then started raping too?)

    Here's where I'm getting at...
    I'm a maniac. Rape and murder don't cross my mind unless I fear it may happen to me. On the contrary I've done horrible things. Watched A Clockwork Orange literally the other day. This being the millionth time seeing it, first time sober. To an extent I related to his character. Aftermath of his stay at the psych ward gave me the feels. Far more than the story before he got caught.

    Hannibal Lector is my shit.
    He made me realize cannibalism is real, and from my studies will stay far away from New Guinea (Flocks of tribes resort there).

    1. I totally get what you're saying! I'm pretty certain Kubrick would approve!

  9. Well you and Military hubby have listed most I've never seen (I don't watch horror movies). I did see "A few good men' though. So that being said...I feel sorry for Johnny (Patrick Swazye) in Dirty Dancing. Wrong time, wrong place for him...LOL
    Hugs Madi and mom

  10. I'm a sucker for a good villain haha!

  11. Oh, Anakin. I actually feel for him too. You can tell he's wrestling with being evil...

    I also like Hannibal even though he'd probably eat me.

  12. Great picks! Am I the only one who noticed that you picked a mix of men and women while your husband picked all male villains? Is it possible that men can't relate to female villains but women can relate to both genders of villains? I do agree with Cal from Titanic in a sense...I mean, dude was being cheated on, basically. He might not have had the best actions, but you can kinda see where his anger was coming from!

    1. Well, in his defense, he probably knew who I was picking and didn't want a repeat lol!

  13. Hmmmm, I don't think I can even answer your question..wait...does Maleficent count?

  14. I love it when you can understand a villain and there is real backstory and depth to them. No one is evil just for evils sake are they?

    1. Yes I agree!
      Well, some people may be...lol. I watch the ID network NONSTOP and there are some messed up people on there.

  15. I totally agree with Anakin and with your husband on Lex! We are watching through Smallville on Hulu(even though we own the dvds??) and he was an excellent version of Lex Luthor. All the early 2000's music is fun too.

    1. Military Husband loves that show, but I could never get into it!

  16. Oooooooh, this is SUCH A FUN TOPIC!

    I am on the fence about Anakin and always have been. What crossed the line for me was when he murdered children. I was rooting for him until that.

    But Harvey Dent in The Dark Knight is a GREAT one. I totally agree with that choice.

    I'm going to have to give this some thought...

    1. Isn't it though?? I'd love to hear ones who you sympathize with!!

  17. I'm with you on Gemma. She was one bad-ass woman. Too bad she got reamed in the end.

    1. I know!! I love her. I think she's a fascinating character.

  18. Yes! I actually wrote about Villains Are Lost Heroes because I can just understand where most of them are coming from. Nice one!

  19. Petra from Jane the Virgin. She was hateful at first, but now she's in a predicament and I want her to come through it okay.

    1. Awesome!!
      And I watched a little of RHPS on Fox. I got to Sweet Transvestite and I was like, yup, I'm done. Just awful!!

  20. I've thought and thought...and I do feel a bit sorry for Loki, the misunderstood brother of Thor...but I am afraid it just might be his sexy English accent ;-).

  21. I've always felt bad for Anakin as well, especially since there were so many different things that happened to him during his life! After the movie Maleficent came out, I've felt really bad for her. It kind of gave you the backstory and the reason why she became "the villain".

    1. I loved Malificent! Not a huge Angelina Jolie fan but that movie was great!!

  22. Ah I love this post! Your blog is really lovely, I am so glad I have found it, keep up the wonderful work pretty lady! x


  23. Hmm, good question. I'm not sure, tbh. Oh, I've never watched Stars Wars. I refuse to!! Hannibal Lector, yes, I can see that...

    1. Star Wars is so good tho! You're missing out!!


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